No matter what people say mum burnout is a really thing. It can hit suddenly and it can hit hard. When it does, it is a very negative thing and if we hit that point when we are angry we may just take it out on your other half or our children. None of us wants that to happen but it can. It can be very hurtful for everyone in the home when it does.
When we feel like we are burning out it can be very hard to discuss. This is because we don’t want to admit that we feel like we are failing. Some mums out there don’t like asking for help. Let alone express that they don’t have it together like everyone thinks they do.
The good new is there are ways to try to avoid getting to the point of no return. I am going to share today my:
4 little secrets I use to try to avoid mum burnout
1 ~ Have A Routine
I love routines. Not only do they help to keep you and your kids organised but it helps to reduce stress. Especially when you have more than one child. If you keep you routine simple it will just fall into place and the home will run much more smoothly. Most mums that do use routines in their homes only use them for their children’s activities. But the home routine can be used to much more wisely. My routine includes home duties, meal times and the children activities. This means my children understand that I have jobs around the home to complete while that are playing in their room for the next 15 minutes or so. Then once the 15 minutes are over we are going to do an activity together. I good routine can help with time management which means less stress. And less of a chance of mum burnout.
2 ~ Take A Mum Break
It doesn’t matter who you are. Everyone needs a break from their children at some point or another. You might have the most well behaved children in the world. You still need some time away from your kids every once in a while. Even if it’s just a kids free trip to the supermarket. Or an hour to go to the gym to a workout session. Everyone need a break now and again. Ask family and friends to babysit your kids for a couple of hours if you can. Why not have a date night with your other half once a month completely kid free. If you are able to take a break from your children you can reduce the likeness of a mum burnout.
3 ~ Work On your relationship
If you have an awesome significant other. don’t neglect your relationship. Your world doesn’t just revolve around your beautiful children. You have a partner who need some of your attention to. Plan some date nights if you can. Go to the gym together. Maybe a walk when both have the time. Sit down at night, hold hands and watch some TV together. You both need to support each other and the best way to do that is to appreciate each other and spend some me time together.
4. Take Care of Yourself
It has been said multiple times. You are important as a mother, as a partner, as worker and as yourself. When we have kids life changes but you should not lose yourself by being something to everyone else. I know people who would disagree with me. Saying that your kids are important and you chose to have them. Well they are right we did chose to have kids. But that doesn’t mean we should loss our identity as an individual to become “so-and-so mother”. We need to be ourselves and the best ourselves we can be. It’s ok to put ourselves first. Self care can be as simple as going to the salon to get our hair and nails done. reading a book. Even if we just each healthy is taking care of ourselves. It’s ok to take some me time. Especially if we want to avoid mum burnout and be the best mums we can be for our kids.
On a final note i want all you mums to know that you guys are awesome. You don’t hear is enough. Your kids love you for just being there mum. I hope my secrets where helpful to you. if you have your own tips please share them in the comments. I would love to hear them
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