Being a stay at home mum is one of the hardest things i have every done. I can honestly say I love being a stay at home mum. Everyday is different from the next and I get to spend my time with my children everyday. I feel so lucky to be able to be at home caring for my children.
While it is great to be a stay at home mum. It is also easy to burn out. I currently have three kids under four at home most days and they are a handful and a half on a well behaved day. I have come to terms with the fact that i am burning out. I am just so tired all the time. I feel like I am endlessly checking my watch to see if it is bedtime yet, so I can go to bed too. As a family we are just so busy all the time. I am just at the point where of burnout. its nothing to be ashamed of. Most mums will reach this point at some time or another during their parenthood journey.
It’s normal to burnout at some point or another. that is why i am going to share with you my secret:
Stay At Home Mum cures for stay at home mum burnout.
1 ~ Get Out Of House
It may just surprise you how much a change of scenery can make you feel better. It doesn’t have to be expensive or complicated. Just load the kids in the car and head down to your local park. In my town we are lucky enough to have a beautiful botanical gardens. We walk around exploring the flowers in the sensory garden, visit the fish at the pond then head over to Lake Wendouree to play on the playground feed the ducks. It’s relaxing for me when I am overwhelmed and fun for my children. A change in environment for everyone. Alternatively just going to visit friends and family can also have the same effect.
2 ~ Get Up Before Your Kids
I know that you have probably heard this one before but it is honestly a lifesaver to starting the day right. A relaxing start to the day, even if it’s just ten minutes gives you the right frame of mind to get through the day when you are overwhelmed. I enjoy being able to shower without my little munchkins knocking on the door asking me questions I can hear. What mamma wouldn’t enjoy getting dresses calmly without rushing. A nice relaxing calm coffee will watching a breakfast show. By the time the munchkins wander out of their bedroom I am in the right frame of mind and ready to start the day on the right foot.
3 ~ Get Ready In The Morning
Continuing on from number 2, getting ready in the morning can make you feel so much better when it comes to mum burnout. Even if you just brush your hair, put on some moisturizer and a new shirt. These can make all the difference when you are feeling burnt out. If you put the effort in to some self care even by simple getting really in the morning it can change your whole outlook on the day ahead of you. Even if you’re staying home all day.
4 ~ Find Your Daily Routine
anyone who knows me knows that i am a routine lover. It might be my OCD coming out but I love routines. if you know what is happening and when during the day then you are less stressed. Its like having a plan of action. Planning out when you are doing domestic duties and when you are running errands and playtime with your children makes the day run so much smoother. I can honestly say your kids will love you for it. The have planned activities throughout the day so the amount of time they spend nagging to spend time with you is dramatically reduced. and with the nagging reduced so is your frustration levels because you can do what you need to do without being constantly interrupted. The key to a good routine is you. Only you can figure out how and when you need things done.
5 ~ Outsource Your Task
As mums we are automatically thought to be the most skilled at multitasking. But we aren’t and its ok to ask for help. if you’re doing the teatime dishes ask your other half to be in charge of the bedtime routine. If you can’t get out of the house but need groceries order them online and have then delivered. If your kids are old enough give them some household responsibilities and a chance to learn some life skills. You are a mum not a god. it is ok to ask for help and outsource. We as mothers need to stop stretching ourselves so thin by taking on too much.
6 ~ Expect less
this one goes without saying. I have been a mum for nearly eight years and i have expected so much of my self as a mum. I have worked, studied while trying to be the best mum ever to my children. I have burnt myself out by pushing myself to do better. To be Better. I compared myself to other mums, who from the outside had it all together. But guess what, they where struggling just as much as the rest of us. So don’t expect to much. Nobody is perfect and that’s ok.
These are my secrets cures to mum burnout. So remember we are all mums and we are awesome for just being mums. Whether you’re a stay at home mum, working mum or a studying mum. In our kids eyes we are their awesome mum and that’s all that matter. No matter how much of a mummy mess you feel like you are doing an awesome job, so just be you and enjoy your kids.
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